Speaking of National Adoption Awareness Month, one of the New York Times' Opinion blogs is currently devoted to "Relative Choices: Adoption and the American Family." With two finely written entries so far, this promising series features perspectives from adopted children, birth parents, and adoptive parents. One of the upcoming writers is Tama Janowitz. Remember her from the Slaves of New York days?
From Katy Robinson's "Tracing My Roots Back to Korea," the blog's November 6th post:
Returning to Korea for the first time since my adoption was a defining moment in my life. It took 20 years to muster the courage to confront the most basic of questions: Who am I? Where did I come from?
These were questions that I did not allow myself to ask while growing up in Salt Lake City, Utah. To broach these topics, it appeared to me, was to point out that I was different from everyone else in my family. I was afraid to seem ungrateful for the amazing new life I had been given, or to hurt my adoptive mother’s feelings by mentioning the mother who gave me birth. It wasn’t as if I was forbidden to talk about my Korean family; it just seemed disloyal.